Do you think your children need your guidance?
Life is too precious so I can’t leave it on its own course. I must take every step as I take when going to appear in an interview or I should play every shot as cautiously as I play a shot at the golf course. It’s all in the reference how we look at the necessities of present time without caring a bit for our future. That is also absolutely necessary your child to be a good Future Citizen.
There is an old saying, ‘we should enjoy today forgetting all about future worries’. True, but I don’t think that this theory will work in every field of our life. For instance if it comes to learn the art of living or upbringing of children we cannot leave these matter s so lightly. I am especially concerned about future of my children then I cannot leave them on their fate. In fact, I have to think seriously about their future, from today itself.
Do you think money is everything?
And when I am at the subject of future my worries are not limited to monetary issues as there is no limit how much we can earn or save for tomorrow but I am more concerned about how we prepare the next generation giving them enough courage and self confidence to face the world. For me, it’s more important how my child will grow into a perfect citizen.
I know many parents who regret the way they brought up their children and feel if they could bring the time back. However, there is good news for all of us as the parenting has a wonderful advantage which let’s mend our ways whenever we wish to do so.
A lust-free mind
It’s not important that you provided your children the best available gadgets or best dresses but the more important is that they become cultured citizens. The money comes and goes but as they say, ‘if your mind is pure and free of lust, joy will follow you at every step’.
Provide your children with good education and manners everything else will come to them without much efforts.
What you can do
First of all it’s entirely your own outlook how you feel about future life and your upbringing which probably the main factor of your child’s future.
I have read a number of posts on this topic and reached to the conclusion all the popular methods of bringing up depend entirely on parents’ outlook right from the beginning.
However, there is no doubt about the fact that patience is the key. Never force your child to something against his wish or at least what it looks like you were trying to force him. You should do what you think is best for your child but have patience and make your child believe that he was doing it willingly.
Let your child take the initiative
Finally, never make your child feel guilty but do everything in a normal way. Sometimes you could feel bad or happy, maybe sad or mad. There will be times when you will be proud or even ashamed with what your child did but wait a moment.
It should not be you but your child who should feel it himself. You will have to prepare him to face the world and take the responsibility of good and bad.